motivation / Don’t be afraid to be yourself

  • Adi Maor Siso
  • being creative . being yourself . confidence . self esteem . what others think .

This was the original title of this post:
“How I stopped caring about what others think and started walking around with colorful pens and markers in my bag”.

It took me a while to decide whether I should share this with you or not. I wasn’t convinced that this topic is interesting enough to share. But then I figured that there is much more to it then just pens and markers. There is self esteem and confidence.

So let me start over.

When was the last time you had the though: “What they think of me?”
When was the last time you held yourself back because you wanted to fit in?
When was the last time you felt like your natural self without masks or even the smallest pretend?

I was a pretender for a long time…

I buried my creative spirit and thought I should act like an “adult” all the time. All my playfulness with colors and other materials was gone. It made me sad and I didn’t even see it.

Only when I allowed myself to do the things I really wanted, I felt free.
And as big as that sounds, its all about the little things; taking out a handful of colored pens in the middle of a workshop and highlight joyfully things in my notebook; drawing hearts in my planner even if I’ll open it in front of my client; sharing my sometimes naive point of view only because I feel inspired to.

It all matters!!

You are here on this planet to be yourself! (Tweet that!)
When I connect to people I want to experience them as they really are and not the way they think people want them to be.

Don’t be afraid.

It’s liberating.

It’s amazingly empowering.

As a bonus, you also get to transform yourself to a much more authentic person and attract the people (and clients!) you really want around you.

I’m so grateful I shed myself this persona. I am who I am. With all my excitement, quirkiness, funny faces to my kids, TED admiration, inspiration picture collection and colorful pens in my hand bag.

Don’t be afraid to be who you are! (tweet that too)

Now more then ever, people want to connect to real people.
Be real. Be you. Share your stories.
Don’t be afraid about what other may think. Most chances they are busy with their own problems anyway.

Start by being aware to all the times and situations you’re holding yourself back from doing something that feels fun and joyful.

Change that!
Do something differently next time.
You can! It’s your life and you should enjoy them much more.

Here is your chance to do something different:

Share your story.

In the comments below let us hear about who you are, what do you love about yourself, about what you do. What is your quirkiness you’re not sure you should publicly display?
Here is your chance to shed something off and connect to other wonderful women and to the world.


I’m here, cheering you on!
Enjoy your journey.

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  1. Jenny
    December 2, 2013 Reply

    Thanks so much for sharing this. It IS an interesting topic and it is so important to be who we are and live our truth. The problem is that it takes courage…. as e.e. cummings said: “It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” :-)

    1. Adi Maor Siso
      December 2, 2013 Reply

      Hi Jenny,
      You’re right, it takes courage (and thanks for the beautiful quote!).
      This is our journey of life, and the sooner we’ll find ourselves the better life we’ll live.

      Is there something that you had the courage to share in the past that turned out to be a good idea?
      I would love to hear your insights (:

  2. Yroko @ Mommy's Fit Life
    December 3, 2013 Reply

    I had a huge issue with my hair. I know it sounds totally vain but, like many women, I associated long hair with being beautiful and with men finding me beautiful. I cut my hair short years ago and quickly grew it back.

    Earlier this year it was waist-length and I was so sick of it but didn’t want to cut it because I was worried that other people would not find me attractive. Finally, I just said ‘eff it and chopped it all off. It was liberating to say the least. Right now I’m growing it back a little longer but I don’t feel like it’s because I’m not beautiful. with short hair. I actually feel prettier now (being my authentic self) than I did with my long flowing tresses. Life truly is the little things, eh?

    Thanks for such a great post!

    1. Adi Maor Siso
      December 3, 2013 Reply

      Wow Yroko,
      Thanks for sharing this authentic and beautiful example.
      It is about the little things, because sometimes the little things are much more meaningful and important then the rest. Because being ourselves is all that matters and it can materialized in all kinds of forms.

      You are amazing as you are!!

  3. Jackie Johansen
    December 3, 2013 Reply

    Love this post, I am always carrying around books and pens with me, too. Your post makes me think about how subtle moments of being ourselves can be but also how extremely powerful they are.

    1. Adi Maor Siso
      December 3, 2013 Reply

      Thanks Jackie!
      It’s so nice to know a fellow books & pens carrier :-P
      I appreciate your comment because it really is about the little things in our daily life that makes the difference.

  4. Clare Greig
    December 4, 2013 Reply

    Love this Adi, I completely agree and it does take courage.
    I am more of a digital girl, everything recorded in my phone or desktop. However much I try to be a stationary person and get excited about it I realised that it just ins’t me, it doesn’t float my boat.
    Each to their own and I totally get why someone would love colourful pens and paper.
    Thanks for sharing.

    1. Adi Maor Siso
      December 4, 2013 Reply

      Thanks for your comment, Clare!
      It’s all about being who we are and enjoying every aspect of it :-)

  5. Helen Butler
    December 4, 2013 Reply

    OMG Adi – how I can relate!
    I have spent time over the past six months learning to be “me” (or at least find “me” again) and even though I’m still not quite there I feel so much better! I wrote an article on my birthday stating publicly my personal goals for the next 12 month. One of them was to have more fun.
    From that I’ve started the Time For Fun Project and am sharing my journey with other lovely ladies who also want more fun in their lives. The idea is to find fun every day – especially those small fun touch points that we normally gloss over. It’s been a revelation so far!
    I think I might also put some coloured textas in my bag – that sounds fun too! :)

    1. Adi Maor Siso
      December 4, 2013 Reply

      Yes! I’m so happy we’re on the same page!
      It’s all about fun and enjoying small things in our daily lives. You’re totally there!
      Your Time For Fun Project sounds amazing!!
      Feel free to share more info about it here, I would love to hear how the project coming along (:
      Maybe I’ll get new ideas for stuff to put in my hand bag :-P

  6. Kelly Pietrangeli
    December 4, 2013 Reply

    So glad you didn’t hold back and you decided to share this post with the world! I especially liked “Don’t be afraid about what other may think. Most chances they are busy with their own problems anyway.” So very true :)

    1. Adi Maor Siso
      December 4, 2013 Reply

      Thanks Kelly!
      I use to say this sentence as a daily mantra just so it would burn in my mind and I’ll get over this berrier…

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